For the past year or so, I have been working on setting boundaries.
And, for those who actively set boundaries, I am curious to know whether you have been met with any resistance by those who “claim to love you?”
I know I have. In a big way. And, by family especially…
None of my family have good boundaries. And, I have had to put boundaries on nearly every one of my relationships with family.
The outcome has not been good.
Communication has gone by the way side between a handful of family members and I, and there’s either nothing I can do, or am willing to do, about it.
Just the other day, a family member I trusted, gave me the third degree about my mental illness.
They made all sorts of “incorrect” assumptions about me, my life, and the trajectory of chronic schizoaffective disorder.
It was a sad scene, and I didn’t fully realize their iill ntentions until the next day when I replayed the situation in my head, and subsequently discussed it with my wife.
Why would someone, anyone, ask me the things I was asked?
The answer is simple. I was and am vulnerable, and my wife was not present.
Had she been around, not a single question would have been asked.
It’s so sad and I will go more into the trouble with family members and boundaries in a future post.
Until then, be well.